All the stares and gauking eyes in public have definitely slowed down now that the girls are older, that Addison is like 3 inches taller, and that they don't really dress alike as much anymore. Most people think I have twins and then think Addy is year older. I'm amazed at how often people say 'Wow, do you have twins?!" And then I'm like "No, triplets." And then their eyes about pop out of their heads like they don't believe me. Most people think triplets are either all identical or all fraternal and that it must be impossible to have two identical and one fraternal. Anyway, we definitely still get looks in stores...but now we no longer get people touching their heads, strangers talking to me forever about how it all worked, telling me that I have my hands full, that they are glad it was me and not them, and asking if I used fertility or whatever. Which by the way, EVERYONE asks if we used fertility treatments which is always interesting to me because most people would never ask that personal of a question to a random mom! But anyway, just the other day I was at Target by myself, shopping in the clearance section for the girls. And these two funny African American ladies were also shopping for their daughters/granddaughters. I think I was hogging all of the skirts because I was trying to find 3 in different colors and sizes and I think they probably wanted one that I had in my hand so one said "How old is your daughter that you're shopping for?" I said, "Well I have 3 and they are all 5." They proceed to like SCREAM in Target and FLIP OUT that I had triplets. "GIIIIRRRRLLL!!! You had TRIPLETS! She had triplets! God be with her!" This leads to about 4 other moms who were shopping in the kid section to come over and all ask questions about what we said when we found out, if we used fertility help, how that all works, if we want more, how I nursed them, you name it. I felt like I was teaching a little lesson on multiples or something. Then I told all of them that another crazy thing is that my best friend also just had triplet boys a year ago. The one lady was like "She has bad karma! RUN!!" And they seriously all walked away from me. So funny. And that was that. It was at least a 10 minute discussion on the whole thing. Gotta love it. :)
Also, our biggest challenge lately is the girls just wanting our attention I guess and it's hard when they all want the same things because they are all girls and all the same age! We have refereeing sessions like every 30 minutes over very minor things like who gets to be the one to be carried up to naps...or who gets their breakfast plate first (who cares!) or who gets to read their book first or who gets to be prayed with first at night or who gets to have their gloves put on first. OH man!! This is tiring!!! So we started having "shining stars" for the day like they have in school so if you are the shining star on Mondays, then you get to do everything first and pick things out and all of that. That has helped a little but it's just REALLY hard to teach them that some things just aren't big deals when they really are a big deal to them! I've been craving some one on one time with the girls so this next month I'm going to try signing up two girls for lunch bunch (they can stay an extra hour after school) and take the other one to lunch with me by herself. So we'll see if that helps at all. :)
And since my last post was kinda sad, just thought I'd share some mom moments that make me SO happy. :)
Days like THIS where I come into the room and see Emily and Hailey helping each other read. Melts my heart! :) (E and H)
And I love just sharing in the girls' JOYS in life. Like this one....the neighbors up at the lake asked if the girls wanted to tube on the ice. How FUN is that?! I have never done this in my life and I LOVE seeing the girls go at life with such excitement and no fear. They were flying around that ice having a BALL. I love seeing them experience so many new things and then hearing them explain it all afterwards is even better!
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Oh my! I was laughing hard about the people who talked to you in Target. That's crazy! Too funny. And, I love how the girls were having God time. What an awesome role model you are!
Ok, so maybe this is creepy. I don't remember how I found your blog, but I love reading it. I was actually in your class at Dordt, but I'm positive you won't remember me since I didn't get out much... Anyway. The questions you talk about getting asked made me giggle. I have 3 kids, all adopted. We're what you'd call a "visible family" because we don't match. So I often get sort of "brave" questions when we're out and about like "Are they siblings?" (Absolutely!) or "where did you get them?" (They aren't puppies!) or "Don't you want kids of your own?" (They ARE my own!) People always want to touch their hair, or act like we are some sort of show and tell just by our very existence. It's a blessing to be able to share my love for adoption, but I'm careful about my responses especially in front of the kids. I don't want them to think they need to explain themselves everywhere we go or that our family is somehow "less than" because I never carried them in my tummy. Anyway. I'm rambling. I just wanted to say THANKS! Because it made me feel normal that other people- even people who made "their own" babies- get awkward questions too sometimes! And PS. Your family is beautiful. :) Sheresa.
Melt my heart - they are so sweet!!! Love them! P.S. They look like TEENAGERS in that picture in the kitchen. They need to stop growing!! Miss you all! XOXO!
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